Gosh, Clint says I thought Bob cared about me, but he doesn’t give a rip about me. Breaking away from shame and guilt, ready for effective addiction recovery is recommended. While it is a big step to take, emotionally, it is necessary to help you focus and appreciate impending rehabilitation steps.

Did you know that there’s a difference between guilt and shame? It seems like people usually speak about these in the same light, though they are different. They are both common feelings which can come guilt and shame in recovery from addiction or drug abuse. When we harm someone it is normal and healthy to feel bad about it, to experience regret and to wish we could take it back or do something to make the person feel better.

Shame and guilt for alcohol-related transgressions and hazardous drinking among male and female college students

A 16-item Guilt and Shame Proneness Scale (GASP) measured public guilt and shame proneness. An adapted version of GASP based on negative alcohol-related consequences measured alcohol-related guilt and shame proneness. When we are able to develop the courage to admit when we are wrong and to work past our fears and resistance and apologize, we develop a deep sense of respect in ourselves. This self-respect can, in turn, affect our self-esteem, self-confidence, and overall outlook on life.

  • It may also be admitting to a relapse, or it can be finally admitting that there is an actual problem when it comes to addiction issues.
  • Substance abuse is one way people achieve this, even if it’s for just a short time.
  • If we get drunk enough or high enough, if we eat enough sugar or fat, the shame sheds away, for a moment.
  • If we’ve said or done something which we can later see as wrong, we will feel guilty, with the attempt to rebuild those bridges.
  • Guilt is commonly a feeling which is linked to empathy.

However, sometimes the shame is
overwhelming. It is so overwhelming that we try to hide what we have done. If
others discover the wrongs we have committed, our shame increases. Or we don’t
know how to right the wrong thing we have done. Instead of doing something to make
it right, we hide what we have done.

How to Overcome Shame and Guilt in Recovery

One way to get out of the cycle is to own up to what we have done. Taking responsibility for the wrongs we have committed is a part of maturing and growing as a person. Admitting that you have made mistakes and done something wrong stops the cycle and frees us from our prison of guilt and shame. You can face your wrongs and take responsibility by verbalizing what you have done and preparing yourself to accept the consequences.

guilt and shame in recovery

I had become the individual whom I never thought would exist. I had become a manipulator of my own emotions and would often do whatever it took to obtain my alcohol to satisfy my addictive thought patterns and behaviors. If you are in recovery, you have most likely had to confront the heavy feelings of guilt and shame.